A lot of times we become stuck at the experience, unable to move forward because we can’t see past what has happened.
We continue to play and rehearse the scenes over and over again in our head. With the same questions: why did this happen, why did this happen to me, etc. Unable to heal because we continue to open up the wounds.
ACKNOWLEGEMENT
- It happened
- It was painful, it hurt
- It was life changing
- It wasn’t fair
- I didn’t deserve it
At some point we have to pull the needle off of the broken record. We have to stop playing the movie of our favorite scene or maybe the worse scene in our life. At some point we have to pull our own selves out of the tar.
It has happened, NOW WHAT?
I realized there was a decision I had to make. And that was to either to LIVE or DIE. I wasn’t physically dieing, but slowly of a spiritual death. Walking, but dead on the inside. No hope or desire to go on. Breathing, but not functiong. I was a dead man walking.
Proverbs 29:18
Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he
What kind of vision do I have for myself?
TRUTH is I had to come to terms with it.
- I had to look at the man in the mirror
- Examine myself
- Where did I go wrong
- OWN IT
Don’t get me wrong, I know that there are somethings that have happened to us that stole our innocence as a child. There were somethings that happened to us that was beyond our control. But at what point do we stop allowing it to have control over our life.
You will never be able heal from the things you refuse to confront
Hebrews 11:1
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
It wasn’t until I could look beyond what I could see in the natural, that I was able to move forward.
DISCOVERY
- Finding out who I am through Christ Jesus
- Believing in who He has created me to be
- Learning to Love me
- Putting me first
Through everything I have experienced there was something that I had to learn and I take them with me through life’s journey.
So, NOW WHAT?
- Allow yourself time to heal
- Take it step by step
- Trust God’s leading
- Keep Moving Forward
It isn’t what happens to us that keeps us from moving forward, but how we respond to the things that have happened.
Take your negative situations and turn them around for your good.
Philippians 3:12-14
Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.