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The Power Of Letting Go

“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me” Pslam 51:10-12

The things that we release will have to be replaced.

The question is what are we replacing them with? A negative plus a positive is still a negative. Releasing a bad habit to pick up another one only creates more. Releasing something toxic but to only replace it with more toxicity will leave you with more damage. The more we can eliminate the negatives in our life and replace them with positive ones will put us on a path to wholeness.

In my own life because I didn’t know who I was and whose I was in an effort to fill those voids I did so with the wrong things and the wrong people which caused me to normalize my dysfunction.

The older I become the more I have tried to create a place of peace. Anything that disturbs that place of peace can create a toxic environment. Making sure that I pay attention to those trigger points and red flags. That discernment or gut feelings is real. I also realize that there are things within me that may have caused me to be toxic to other people.

“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in good health, even a thy soul prospereth” 3 John 2

When hearing this scripture I have mostly heard it being referenced to prospering in materialistic things or acquiring materialistic gain. God wants us to be whole in every aspect of our life and to learn how to have balance so that we are able to maintain it. Our character, our business, at work, in our resources, our health and our relationships. Growing up I was taught to focus on the spiritual aspects of my life which caused me to be religious in my thinking, judgmental and unbalanced.

In the midst of this pandemic God has me in a place of restoration, healing and is setting me free from things that has held me in bondage due to unresolved trauma, normalized behaviors that created unhealthy habits, unhealthy behaviors and life styles. I have asked God to reveal the sources and now I am doing the necessary work to become a better version of myself. We can not truly prosper if we are physically, emotionally, and mentally sick.

It takes more energy to hang on than to let go of the things that are doing more harm to us

Sometimes in our effort to move on if we don’t take the time to heal from what has happened it can cause further damage. In order for us to start to properly heal we must:

1. Assess the damage that has been done. Not acknowledging or avoiding what has happened will cause you to internalize your pain. Be honest how you are feeling.

2. Deal with what has happened. Allow yourself the time to properly grieve. Find away to allow yourself to be vulnerable and release what you are feeling in a healthy way.

3. Resolve any unresolved issues within ourselves. Take a moment to self reflect. Take ownership of anything that you may have done. Make sure to not only forgive others but to forgive yourself as well. Get rid of any anger, resentment or bitterness that may hold you back from moving forward.

” Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice” Ephesians 4:31

I can not do this in my own strength. I have to allow God to create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within. I have to continue to lay down my life daily so he can complete the work in me. With out God’s help it will be a losing battle.

There is a false perception that God will do it all. It is true that God can do anything but he won’t do them without our participation. It is going to take more than just our shout and our prayers. Our unwillingness to do what is necessary to change, heal FOR REAL and evolve will keep us in bondage. “Faith without works is dead” James 2:26

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The Imaginery Line


Growing up I always had more male friends than female friends. I was hated because I was light skinned or had good hair. Some thought I was stuck up, conceited, had some idea that I thought I was better than everyone else when that was never my thoughts at all. Most of the times I was struggling with who I was and fighting to somehow stay alive. Some judged my outer smile thinking that my life was perfect, but little did they know I was really broken on inside. Because of that I always felt that I had to protect myself. I had to carry this tough image that I was ok, when really I was crying out for someone to help take this pain away. So I was always up for the challenge and by all means don’t dare me to do something, because you might have gotten something you didn’t want. THANK GOD for Jesus that I have learned how to not only pick my battles, but my approach to fighting is a little different now. There was this one girl I remember in our neighbor hood that had some beef with me.  I’m not sure why we even got into an altercation because we were always around each other.  I would say we considered each other friends. I guess we had that love hate relationship. All I remember was everyone in the neighborhood was around that day adding fuel to the fire of course, which only got me pumped while stroking my ego. The girl drew this imaginery line daring me to cross it or she would beat me up. What did you do that for? Of course I’m going to cross it. I wasn’t scared of anyone and if I was you would never know it. I remember going back and forth with the imaginery line, but nothing ever happened.  At least I don’t remember, other than us remaining friends. I didn’t realize how important those imaginery lines were until a couple of years ago. The imaginery lines I am referring to are boundaries. You can’t see them, but you know they are there. It is very important that we set healthy boundaries in our lives.  We can’t be afraid to let others know or feel guilty for having them. We can’t allow others to cross them, not even ourselves.  Your feelings are real and should be respected. But if you don’t respect them how do expect someone else to. By not setting boundaries it leaves you wide open and vulnerable to become hurt, misused and abused. That all stems from not knowing who you are. When I found me and loved me through God’s word there are boundaries I want let others cross including myself. I spent years of settling for less until I found out I was worth so much more. Although I am still learning, I am no longer afraid because I found my voice. #YOUAREWORTHIT

Transformation Monday


One of the things that I hate the most while “In the Garden” are the weeds. There are so many of them and they are so hard to get rid of. I could have just taken some out and no sooner then I turn around there would be more.   If you aren’t careful weeds can kill what you are trying to produce and creep up on you out of no where. Some weeds can appear to be a comaflouge as they can produce some beautiful flowers, but the nature of them is to destroy and take over whatever it comes in contact with.  Weeds are any undesireable or trouble some plant, especially one that grows profusely where it is not wanted.  It can almost be a daily process when trying to get rid of the weeds. There are some weeds that I have taken up that I couldn’t  believe how long and thick the roots were.  Some I ended up breaking because the roots were so deep that I couldn’t get to it all or I had to dig deep.  That meant that they had to have been growing underneath the ground for some time before it was produced on the surface.  The manifestation that you see in people’s lives has a lot to do with the things that were never taken care of before they set root and are now coming to the surface.  A lot of things happen or stem from our childhood. Things that should have been dealt with or given to us then and the lack there of resulted into us looking into and picking up unhealthy things.  Roots once set are hard to get rid of because roots run deep, but they aren’t impossible.  If you don’t destroy it from it’s root and get it at it’s early stages it will come up again and it will only increase in size.  Though the process can be long and painful it is necessary in order for you to grow healthy and remain free.  It’s not so much what you can see, but the thing’s which are not. If there are something’s in your life that you don’t like it’s root is underneath the surface.  Get to the root and kill it.